What flows, flows, and what goes, goes
Oh, what a challenging concept this can be to grasp. In life everything is constantly changing, moving, and flowing. Kind of like rivers and bodies of water. No, I was not trying to make a reference to a Disney song, but I mean I definitely may have sung some in my head. Hahaha! But seriously, it can be really hard to let go, and to not hold onto things we cared about or that happened in our day-to-day lives. I personally have struggled with this and I feel like I do still, but I am learning to try and be better about just allowing what is meant to happen to happen.
For me, I really, really, don’t like telling the people I love goodbye. That is why most of the time I will say I will talk to them later or things like that. I don’t like having to watch my siblings, especially, walk away after getting to see them. I don’t like telling any of my family goodbye. I also don’t like the sensation of feeling like I am losing someone who means so much to me. I get physical pain in my body sometimes because of it. I love the people I love, and I care about them a lot. Now, this may be both a burden and a gift, but I tend to care more about others at times than others care about me. Why, I am not 100% sure, but I do. I am working on not being ashamed of caring about others so much. There were times when I felt ashamed sometimes for caring about people as much as I do, but realistically I am just trying to treat people the way I would want to be treated. That is how all of us should be. Who knows, maybe, just maybe, I may actually be helping someone by caring so much and may just not see it right now. I at times used to see me caring so much about others as a flaw, but I know, and recognize it is a part of what makes me beautiful. I am also learning to not hold onto things for so long, and allowing everything to flow as it needs to, and will. That way if a person who I really cared about left my life, or if something I did not want to lose went away, I could acknowledge my sadness, but also hopefully not dwell for too long. Whatever is meant to happen will happen.
Time does not stop, life does not stop, and change does not stop. A part of life is making that realization and finding a way to be okay and make peace with it. It is not easy, but it is not impossible. We must understand and learn how to allow what flows to flow, and what goes, to go. For example, hypothetically, you meet someone and really enjoy talking with them and getting to know them and you want that relationship to last, but maybe it doesn’t, and they end up leaving your life. It may or may not be devastating, but you have to allow that to go, because that wasn’t meant to last. Now, let’s also say, hypothetically, you’ve got a job and its going strong and steady for you and it just is an overall great experience and decision, well, you’re going to let what flows, flows then. So, if it works, then it works and there is nothing to worry about, right? But, the same “there’s nothing to worry about” should also apply to when something comes to an end. Not because it is not sad or hard to go through, but because for some reason the universe or god, whatever you believe in, decided it was something that was not meant to flow with you forever. It is hard I know, trust me.
It is a very hard pill to swallow, and definitely takes some time to become okay with this idea. However, it is a part of life and a hard lesson to learn for some. Myself, being one of those people that it is hard to be okay with sometimes. But we can always find the good in any situation or experience. Sometimes we just have to look a little harder. I am going to keep learning how to go with whatever flows and accepting whatever goes. Everyone else should too! Much love! See you again before too long!
Best regards,
The Inspiring Hummingbird!